Aurton Kay Jinsi Masail

Shadi kay shuru kay days mein bohut si aurtein agarcha foreplay aur mubashrat (intercourse)  sey lutf andooz hoti hain magar inki aik bari tadaad fitri tor per orgasm hasil nahi kar paati. Iss ka zimadar amooman mard nahi hota. Agarcha woh mard jo surat e inzaal ka shikar hotey hain woh iss masley ki wajah sey biwi ko mutmain nahi kar  paatey. Aurton ki aik bohut bari tadaad sirf mubashrat (intercourse)  sey orgasm hasil nahi kart sakti. Kuch aurtein jawani kay shuru kay saal mein fitri tor per orgasm hasil karney sey mehroom rehti hain. Aisi khawateen ko to baqaida orgasm hasil karna seekhna parta hai. Orgasm waley hissey mein iss mozoo per tafseeli guftogu hogi.

    Aurton ki aik bohut mamooli tadaad ko mubashrat (intercourse)  ka bey hud khauf hota hai jis ki wajah sey mubashrat (intercourse)  kay waqt inkay jism khusoosan taangein akar jaati hain aur faraj ka mu'nh bilkul band ho jata hai jis ki wajah sey mubashrat (intercourse)  na mumkin hojata hai. Yeh aik beemari hai jis ka elaj bohut aasan hai. Iss ka tafseeli zikar agai aiga. Baaz aurton ko yeh masla nahi hota magar phir inkay liye dakhool bohut takleef deh bul kay naa mumkin hota hai. Iss ki wajah yeh hoti hai kay kuch khawateen ka parda e bakarat (Hymen) sakt aur mota hota hai jo dakhool mein rukawat banta hai. Aisi sorat mein kisi lady doctor sey rabta kiya jaey mamoli operation sey yeh masla hal ho jata hai.

Afterplay Importance - Ba'ad Az Mubashrat Ki Ahmiyat

After Play (Ba'ad Az Mubashrat)

    Mojoda maahireen afterplay ko bohut ahmiyat detey hain. Taqreeban tamam maahireen kay naazdeek yeh naa sirf bohut ahem bul kay nehayat zaroori hai. En kay nazdeek yeh mubashrat (intercourse)  aur orgasm sey bhi behtar hai. Khusoosan khawateen kay liye yeh bohut hi lutf angaez amar hai. Lehaza mubashrat (intercourse)  ki takmeel kay foran baad zakar ko bahir naa nikaleyn. Biwi sey alehdah naah on bul kay iss kay jism kay saath jism mila kar leytai rahein. Isskay jism per hath phaerein kiss karein. Iss kay saath baghal geer hun. Iss ko bheencheyn. Isski tareef karein, isey baatein ka iss ka jism resham ki tarhan mu'nhleym hai. Iss kay pistaan bey hud khoobsoorat hain issey yeh bhi baatein kay iss kay saath mubashrat (intercourse)  sey aap nay bey panaah lutf uthaya hai. Khusoosan mojoda jinsi amal mein aap ko sab sey acha kiya laga. Iss tarhan woh aa'enda bhi aap ko iss tarhan khushi aur lazat deynay ki koshish kareygi.

    Master and Johnson ki research kay mutabiq woh mard jo discharge kay baad biwi kay jism kay saath jism ko milaey rakhtey hain aur zakar ko foran bahir nahi nikal leytai en ka 50% tanau (erection) discharge honay kay baad barqarar rehta hai. Iss sorat mein agar biwi abhi bhi orgasm  hasil nahi kiya to woh apney bazer (clitoris) ko zakar ki jar kay saath ragar ragar kar orgasm hasil kar leygi.

    Yehi baat aaj sey 1400 year qabal Allah Ta'ala kay Nabi Hazrat Muhammad (P.B.U.H) ney irshad farmein thee " kay biwi sey jald alehdah naa hojao takay woh bhi apni zaroorat puri karley".

    Safaee waghaera kay baad iss kay bazo ya seeney per ser rakh kar so jaein ya biwi aap kay seeney per ser rakh kar sojaey.

Premature Ejaculation - Mardana Jinsi Kamzori

Doosra masla premature ejaculation (surat e inzal) ka hai. Mardon ki seminal vesicles amooman 3.5 days mein bhar jati hain. Phir woh ekhraj ka taqaza karti hain. Mukhtalif wajoohaat ki bina per ghaer shadi shuda mard ki mani (semen) ka regular ekhraj nahi hota Chunancha yeh bhari hui naaliyen mamoli jinsi stimulation sey mani (semen) ko bahir nikal deti hain iss tarhan mard jald discharge hojata hai baaz auqat to dakhool ki koshish hi mein discharge ho jata hai. Iss soorat e hal mein mard shadeed sharmindigi mehsoos karta hai. Yeh koi jismani beemari nahi aur naa hi mardana jinsi kamzori ki alamat hai.

Lehaza aap parisshan naah on, pursukoon rahein. ( Iss book mein iss masley kay bohut sey hal mojood hain jin ka zikar muta'alliqa baab mein hoga) aur 1 – 2 hours kay baad jinsi khail shuru karein to thori deyr mein aap phir jiinsi amal kay liye tayyar hojaein gey to aap dubara mubashrat (intercourse)  karein. Iss bar aap ki karkardagi bohut behtar hogi. Aa'enda bhi kuch arsa rozanaa dubara mubashrat (intercourse)  karein to aap ki karkardegi behtar rahaigi.

Aurton Kay Masail

    Shadi kay shuru kay days mein bohut si aurtein agarcha foreplay aur mubashrat (intercourse)  sey lutf andooz hoti hain magar inki aik bari tadaad fitri tor per orgasm hasil nahi kar paati. Iss ka zimadar amooman mard nahi hota. Agarcha woh mard jo surat e inzaal ka shikar hotey hain woh iss masley ki wajah sey biwi ko mutmain nahi kar  paatey. Aurton ki aik bohut bari tadaad sirf mubashrat (intercourse)  sey orgasm hasil nahi kart sakti. Kuch aurtein jawani kay shuru kay saal mein fitri tor per orgasm hasil karney sey mehroom rehti hain. Aisi khawateen ko to baqaida orgasm hasil karna seekhna parta hai. Orgasm waley hissey mein iss mozoo per tafseeli guftogu hogi.

    Aurton ki aik bohut mamooli tadaad ko mubashrat (intercourse)  ka bey hud khauf hota hai jis ki wajah sey mubashrat (intercourse)  kay waqt inkay jism khusoosan taangein akar jaati hain aur faraj ka mu'nh bilkul band ho jata hai jis ki wajah sey mubashrat (intercourse)  na mumkin hojata hai. Yeh aik beemari hai jis ka elaj bohut aasan hai. Iss ka tafseeli zikar agai aiga. Baaz aurton ko yeh masla nahi hota magar phir inkay liye dakhool bohut takleef deh bul kay naa mumkin hota hai. Iss ki wajah yeh hoti hai kay kuch khawateen ka parda e bakarat (Hymen) sakt aur mota hota hai jo dakhool mein rukawat banta hai. Aisi sorat mein kisi lady doctor sey rabta kiya jaey mamoli operation sey yeh masla hal ho jata hai.

First Intercourse Male Problems

Pehli Mubashrat Kay Masail

Mardon Kay Masail

    Shadi kay hawaley sey mardon ka ahem tareen masla mubashrat (intercourse)  mein naakami ka khauf hota hai. Insan ghalat tor per samajhta hai kay shayad woh shaadi kay qabil nahi aur mubashrat (intercourse)  nahi kar sakey ga. Insan jaisey sochta hai waisey hi hojata hai. Iss soorat mein iss khauf ki wajah sey amooman insan ko mubashrat kay liye matlooba tanau (erection) nahi hota jis ki wajah sey dakhool na mumkin  hojata hai. Iss soorat mein awwal to tanau (erection) hota hi nahi, ya phir bohut hi mamooli hota hai. Teesri soorat yeh hoti hai kay isey tanau (erection) bilkul theek hota hai magar dakhool kay waqt yakdam khatam hojata hai jis ki wajah sey insan sharminda aur pareshan hojata hai. Jawani mein yeh masla taqreeban kabhi jismani nahi hota. Agar aap ko kisi bhi waqt khusoosan subha kay waqt tanau (erection) hota hai to aap bilkiul normal hain aap ka masla nafsiyati hai. Sex kay hawaley sey hamari society mein pheli hui bey shumaar ghalat baaton (jin mein sey ahem ka zikar book kay shuru mein mojood hai) ki wajah sey aksar naujawan apney aap ko ghalat tor per mardana kamzori ka shikar samajh letey hain. Inhein khauf hota hai kay woh mubashrat (intercourse)  mein nakam hojaein gey inn khadshaat aur khauf ki wajah sey insan mubashrat (intercourse)  mein nakam hojata hai aisi soorat mein aap bilkul pur sukoon rahein. 2 weeks kay liye mubashrat (intercourse) naa karein magar rozana foreplay karein. Bharpoor tanau (erection) ki soorat mein bhi mubashrat (intercourse)  sey bachein. InshaAllah 2 week baad aap ka masla khatam hojaey ga. Basorat deegar kisi achey mahir e nafsiyat sey raabta karein. Waisey iss book mein iss masley ka hal mojood hai. Iss sey faida uthaien.

Preparation For First Intercourse - Pehli Mubaashirat Ki Tayyari

Doosri taraf agar mard ko surat e inzal ka khauf ya tanau ka masla hai to do din mubashrat (intercourse) kay bajaey foreplay karney sey iss ka surat e inzal aur naakami kay khauf bohut had tak khatam ya kam az kam bohut kam hojata hai. En days mubashrat (intercourse)  kay bajaey sirf foreplay sey jinsi lutf hasil karein. Albatta jab bhi pehli mubashrat (first intercourse)  karni ho iss ki baqaida tayyari kareyn, sham ko kam sey jald wapis ajaeyn, khana jaldi aur halka khaein. Biwi ki tareef karein, isey bataein kay aap ko iss raat ka barson sey intezar tha. Kaam per bhi aap isey yad kartey rahey.

    Sham ko ghusl karlein, tooth paste karna naa bholein, apney jism aur libas ko khusboo sey muatter karein. Foreplay sey pehley biwi kay jism khusoosan aaza e makhsoosa ko achi tarhan dekh aur jaan lein takay mubashrat (intercourse)  mein ghalti ka imkan naa rahey.

    Mubashrat (intercourse)  ki mansoba bandi kareyn, tasawwur mein sab kuch kareyn. Mubashrat (intercourse)  sey kam az kam 20 -30 mint pehley foreplay sey lutf andooz hun. Iss kay liye sab sey pehley dress samaet biwi sey piyar mohabbat kareyn. Iss kay sarey jism per hath phaerein. Iss sey baghal geer hun. Iss kay saath liptain, apney jism ko iss kay jism kay sath milaeyn, bheenchein aur ragrein. Iss ki gardan per hath phaerein, gardan, rukhsaar aur lips ko kiss karein. Jaldi naa karein. Pehley apney dress utarein phir uskay. Ab iss kay sarey jism per mukhtalif andaaz sey hath phaerein. Khusoosan shoulders, paet, hath kay androoni hisson, ranon kay androoni hisson aur kamar kay nichley hissey per. Ab iss kay hips aur azaa e makhsoosa ko apney hath sey mushtael karein (tafseel foreplay waley hissey mein dekh lein).

Intercourse - Mubashrat  Biwi ki kamar kay neechey takiya rakhleyn aur agar iss kay sareen bohut patley hain to 2 takyey rakhein. Isski taangon kay darmiyan beth jaein. Biwi ki taangein thori si kholein aur ooper ko uthaein. Shuru mein iss ki taangon ko apney shoulders per naa rakhein. Iss sey dakhool deep hoga aur biwi ko zyada takleef hogi. Ab zakar ko aaza e makhsoosa (vulva) kay bilkul nichley hissey mein aaram sey dakhil karein. Pura dakhil naa karein. Phir bahir nikal leyn. Pahli bar dakhil karney sey faraj ki chiknaahat zakar per lag jaati hai iss tarhan doosri bar dakhool ziyada aasan hoga. Ab zakar ko phir dakhil karein. Ab pehley sey zara ziyada dakhil karein. Biwi sey kahain kay woh aaza-e-makhsoosa (vulva) kay muscles ko bilkul dhela chor dein. Iss sorat mein isey takleef naa hogi yeh bohut hi mamoli hogi. Tahem isey iss takleef ko bardasht karna hoga. Takleef kay saath saath isey bai panaah lutf bhi hasil hoga. Aik bar phir zakar ko bahir nikal leyn. Nikalnay aur dalnay sey aurat ko bai panaah lutf miley ga. Ab pura dakhil kardein. Dakhil karney kay baad pursukoon rahein. Dakhool kay baad biwi kay pistaan aur bazer (clitoris) ko mushta'el karein. Amooman 5 mint kay stimulation sey aurat orgasm hasil karleyti hai. Phir aap ahista ahista jhatkay lagain aur discharge hojaeyn. Agar aap ko zakar ko bar bar bahir nikalnay aur dakhil karney mein inzal ka khatra ho to phir aik hi bar dakhil karein. shuru mein thora phir ziyada karein. Dakhool kay baad pursukoon rahein kuch deyr baad ahista ahista jhatkay lagain. Inzal honay sey pehley ruk jaeyn aur paet sey lambai lambai breath leyn aur zakar ko sukayrain. Inzal ka waqt guzar janay kay baad phir ahista ahista jhatkay lagain. Inzal kay qareeb ruk jaeyn paet sey lambai lambai breath leyn aur zakar ko phir sukayrain. Iss ko kay bar kara ja sakta hai.

Mukammal dakhool sey parda e bakarat (Hymen) phutt jaeyga. Kuch khoon nikley ga aur biwi ko kuch takleef bhi hogi magar isey bey panaah lazzat hasil hogi. Parda e bakarat (Hymen) phatney ki soorat mein uss raat mubashrat (intercourse)  naa karein. lekin agar biwi ko zyada takleef naa ho to iss ki khushi aur marzi sey mubashrat (intercourse)  ki ijazat hai. Agar blood naa nikley to bhi pareshan naa hun. Iss ki kaee wajoohaat ho sakti hain. Baaz aurton ka parda e bakarat (Hymen) paedeshi tor per hota hi nahi. Baaz ka baghaer blood nikley phat jata hai aur baaz bachiyon ka khael kood aur haez (menses) kay days mein safai kartey huai phat jata hai. Baaz khawateen ka parda e bakarat (Hymen) lachak daar hota hai woh phatta hi nahi aur yeh bachey ki paedesh per hi phatta hai. First 2 or 4 mubashrat (intercourse)  mein aurat ko kuch takleef hoti hai phir takleef nahi hoti aur phir lutf hi lutf. Mard kay inzal sey pehley aik shafaf maddey kay chund qatrey zakar sey nikaltey hain. Yeh koi beemari nahi. Yeh copwer gland sey nikalnay wala solution hota hai jis ki wajah sey sperm aasani kay saath swim kartey huai bahir aajatey hain. Iss ki wajah sey peeshaab ki naali chikni hojaati hai jis ki wajah sey mani (semen) aasani kay saath bahir nikal aati hai.

    Baaz auqaat faraj bohut tang hoti hai yeh jinsi stimulation ki wajah sey faraj ki entrance mein ziyada blood ajanay ki wajah sey faraj swell honay ki wajah sey tang hojaati hai. Aisi sorat mein dakhool bohut mushkil hoti hai. Iss sorat mein aap 20-30 mint kay foreplay kay baad apni shahadat wali ungli chikni karkay faraj mein ahista ahista dakhil karein. Iss kay sath sath biwi sey kahein kay woh faraj kay muscles ko dheela chordey.

Iss sey kam takleef hogi. Kuch der ungli ko sakin rakhein. Thori der baad ungli ko ander baher harkat dein. Jab biwi isey bardasht karley to phir ungli kay saath wali 2 fingers chikni karkay faraj mein ahista sey dalein aur biwi faraj kay muscles ko dheela chordey. Kuch der baad inn ko ander baher harkat dein. Iss sey amooman parda e bakarat (Hymen) phat jata hai. Kuch blood nikalta hai aur mamoli si takleef bhi hoti hai magar iss sey zaberdast jinsi josh bhi paida hota hai. Jab biwi 2 fingers bardasht karley to phir zakar ka dakhool aasan hojata hai. Blood band honay per aap apney zakar ko chiknaa karein aur tareeqa number 1 (Missionary method) kay mutabiq ahista ahista faraj mein dakhil karein aur ahista ahista jhatkay lagain. Jhatkay laganay kay saath saath aik chikni ungli sey clitori aur doosri hath sey biwi kay pistaan ko mushta'el karein. Taqreeban 80% khawateen ko orgasm kay husul kay liye inkay bazer (clitoris) ko mushta'el karna zaroori hai Warna woh orgasm hasil naa kar sakayngi. Inzal kay qareeb ruk jaeyn aur paet sey lambai lambai breath leyn. Inzal ka waqt guzar janay kay baad phir isi amal ko dubara karein. 2-4 times iss amal ko karein kay baad discharge hojaeyn. Agar parda-e-bakarat (Hymen) phutt (rupture)d honay sey biwi ko ziyada takleef ho to zakham kay ko bharnay tak 1 or 2 days mubashrat (intercourse)  nahi karein. Agar biwi mubashrat (intercourse)  mein bhar poor tawun karey aur apney jism ko bilkul dhela chor dey to pahli mubashrat (intercourse)  mein isey ziyada takleef naa hogi. Itercourse sey pehley dua pharnaa naa bholeyn. Dakhool kay baad donon mian biwi per ghusl wajib hojata hai. Chahey inzal ho ya naa ho.

First Night Of Marriage - Shadi Ki Pehli Raat

Humarey yahan first night of marriage (shadi ki pehli raat) mubashrat (intercourse)  ko zaroori samajha jata hai Warna valima jaeyz naa hoga. Quran o Sunnah ki roshni mein iss baat ki koi haqeeqat nahi hai. Humarey yahan amooman nikah raat ko bohut late hota hai. Dulhan ko ghar pohonchtey pohonchtey raat kay 2 ya 2 ½ baj jatey hain jis ki wajah sey dulha aur dulhan thak kar choor ho jatey hain. Thakawat kay elawa donon khauf, ghabrahat aur jhijhak ka shikar bhi hotey hain. Khusoosan agar donon pehley sey ek doosrey sey waqif na hun.

 Larkay ko amooman nakami jab kay larki ko mubashrat (intercourse)  ki takleef ka khauf hota hai. Iss khauf aur anxiety  ki wajah sey amooman aurat ki faraj ki entrance tang hojati hai aur faraj kay ander chiknaahat ki kami bhi hojaati hai jis ki wajah sey dakhool aur mubashrat (intercourse)  takleef dey hojata hai. Doosri taraf larka samajhta hai kay agar iss nay pahli night mubashrat (intercourse)  naa kiya to larki samajhai gi kay shayad mian iss qabil nahi (halan kay aurtein amooman iss tarhan nahi sochtiin) jawani mein har mard jismani lehaz sey normal aur jinsi amal ka puri tarhan sey ahull hota hai. Albatta khauf aur zehni  dabao ki wajah sey baaz auqat isey tanau (erection) nahi hota yeh aain time per khatam hojata hai jokay aik fitri amal hai. Kyun kay khauf, zehni  dabao aur tension tanau (erection) kay dushman hain. Lehaza iss sorat-e-haal kay paesh-e-nazar pehli raat sex ko ziyada ahmiyat naa di jaey Chunancha pehli raat mubashrat (intercourse)  naa karna donon kay liye mufeed hai. Waisey bhi pehli raat mubashrat (intercourse)  donon kay liye kisi had tak takleef deh hoti hai. Thakawat aur tension mein yeh takleef ziyada mehsoos hoti hai.

    Behtar hai kay pehli raat donon mian biwi ghup shup karein. Ek doosrey sey waqfiyat hasil kareyn ek doosrey sey maanoos hun

Ek doosrey ko samjhein, ek doosrey ki pasand naa pasand, jazbaat ehsaasaat aur khwahishat sey aagahi  hasil kareyn. Mubashrat (intercourse)  kay elawa kaee doosrey tareeqon sey bhi jinsi lutf hasil kiya ja sakta hai. Maslan piyar Mohabbat ki baatein, aurat ko Mohabbat ki baatein bey hud pasand hain. Mian biwi kay husun-o-jamal ki tareef karey. Donon kiss sey lutf andooz hun. Aik doosrey kay jism kay lamz sey lazat hasil kareyn. Ek doosrey kay jism per hath phaerein, massage kareyn. Biwi ko galey lagain, bhenchain, baghal geer hun, iss kay saath liptein, yeh sab kuch donon kay liye bohut lutf angaez hoga. Phir aik doosrey kay saath lipat kar so jaeyn lekin agar donon ek doosrey sey pehley hi waqif hun to bhi pehli raat mubashrat (intercourse)  zaroori nahi hai. Amooman thakawat ki wajah sey donon zyada lutf andooz nahi hotey. Agar donon fresh hun, razi hun, to phir mubashrat (intercourse)  mein koi harj nahi. lekin agar biwi zyada khauf zada hai yeh isey bohut zyada dard mehsoos ho to phir mubashrat (intercourse) naa kareyn. Biwi kay ta'awwun aur razamandi kay baghaer zabardasti mubashrat (intercourse)  naa ki jaey. Iss sey biwi kay dil mein nafrat paeda ho jati hai baaz auqat iss nafrat ki wajah sey biwi aik taweel arsey mubashrat (intercourse)  sey lutf andooz nahi ho sakti aur mubashrat (intercourse)  aur jinsi amal mein bhar poor shirkat nahi karti.

    Tahem behtar yehi hai kay pehley ek do din ek doosrey ko samajhney, maanoos honay, ek doosrey kay jazbat o ehsaasat, khwahishat, pasand aur naa pasand ko janney mein guzarein. Mubashrat (intercourse)  ko ek do din multawi karna donon kay liye bey hudd mufeed hai. Iss sey aurat ka khauf kam hojata hai, woh zyada ta'awwun karti hai.

Shadi Ki Pehli Raat In Urdu For Men - Pehli Mobashrat

Shaadi ki buniyad mubashrat (intercourse)  hai. Pehli mubashrat (First intercourse)  darasal mard ka aurat per first impression hota hai. First impression ka moqa insan ko aik hi bar milta hai. Mard chata hai kay iss ka first impression  bohut shandaar ho. Chunancha woh iss hawaley sey bohut conscious hota hai. Chunancha first impression ko shandaar bananey kay liye pehli mubashrat (first intercourse)  sey pehley behtar hai kay aap iss book kay "Mubashrat "  mubashrat kay adaab "Mohabbat ka khel" aur "Mubashrat kay tareeqey" waley hissey ko aik bar phir baghor phar ley.

    "Mubashrat kay adaab" kay mutabiq hujla urusi ko khoob sajaya jaey. Kamrey ka mahol khushgawar aur pur sukoon ho. Bath room kay saath ho to ziyada behtar hoga. Bister per flowers ki paatiyan bhekbaali jaeyn. Room ko mom batti ki roshni sey sehar angaez banaya jaey. Mubashrat (intercourse)  mein use honay wala zaroori saman qareeb mojood ho.

    Dulha aur dulhan ghusl kar kay din bhar ki thakawat ko door kar kay fresh hojaeyn. Mian tasawur karey ka biwi ko jinsi amal aur mubashrat (intercourse)  kay hawaley sey kuch pata nahi hai lehaza woh isey iss silsiley mein  zaroori malomat farham karey maslan biwi ko bataein kay :

First Intercourse - Pehli Mubashrat

1. Allah kay piyarey Nabi Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H) ney jinsi amal ko naeki aur sadqa qarar diya hai jis ka sawab milta hai. (Muslim)
2. Biwi mian kay saath ta'awwun karey. Agar woh baghaer kisi ma'aqool wajah kay ta'awun sey inkar karey to farishtey sari raat iss per laanat bhaijtey hain. (Abu Dawood, Muslim, Nisa'ee)
3. Mubashrat ek purlutf amal hai agarcha pehli bar kuch takleef hoti hai. lekin agar biwi apni sari tawajjah jinsi lutf per markhooz karey to takleef ka zyada ehsaas nahi hota. Agar bharpoor ta'awwun karey aur apney jism ko dheela chor dey to takleef bhi kam hoti hai.

    Pehli raat biwi ki tawaza, dil dari aur dil joi ki jaey. Allah kay pak naabi Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H) nay Hazrat Ayesha ko doodh pilaya (ahmed) amooman larki apnaa ghar chor kar naey ghar aur naey mahool mein aati hai. Woh khauf ghabrahat aur nervousness ka shikar hoti hai. Woh mian aur susral walo kay hawaley sey kay tarhan kay khadshat ka shikar hoti hai. Iss sorat mein isey dil joi ki sakht zaroorat hoti hai. Behtar hai kay donon 2 , 2 nafil phar leyn. Kamiyab aur pur sakoon zindagi ki dua kareyn. Iss sey insan per sukoon hojata hai. Jis ki wajah sey tanau (erection) bhar poor hoga aur inzal bhi jald naa hoga. Tahem agar kisi mard ko surat e inzal ka masla hai ya khauf hai ka inzal jald ho jaey ga to aisey fard kay liye mahireen tajweez kartey hain kay woh mubashrat (intercourse)  sey 2 hours pehley khudlazaati karley. Iss sey insan jismani lehaz sey pur sukoon hojata hai aur phir mubashrat (intercourse)  mein jald ejaculate nahi hota

Sex Positions In Islam

Isi tarah Abdullah Ibn e Abbas sey rivayat hai kay ek din Hazrat Omar bin Khattab Hazrat Muhammad ki khidmat mein hazir huey aur arz ki kay aey Allah kay rasool mein barbaad hogaya, aap ney farmaya tum kyun barbaad ho gaey arz ki: raat meine apni sawari ka kajawah palat diya, aap ney jawab na diya to yeh ayat nazil hui "Tumahri aurtein tumhari khaeti hai to tum apni khaeti mein jis tarah chaho aa saktey ho". Ek aur hadees hai Hazrat Jabir beyan karte hain kay yahoodiyo'n ka kehna hai kay agar koi shohar apni biwi sey peechey ki taraf reh kar mubashrat (sex) karey to aisi surat mein bhaenga bacha paeda hoga. Umm ul momineen Hazrat Hafsah sey rivayat hai kay ek khatoon ney unn sey shikayat kii kay unka shohar usey pehlu kay bul lita kar sex (mubashrat) karta hai jab Hazrat Muhammad sey poocha gaya to aap ney farmaya kay koi harj nahin agar ek sooraakh tak mehdood ho.(masnad-e-imam abu hanifa)     Inn ahadees sey ma'aloom hua kay Allah Ta'ala kay nabi kareem kay daur main madinah mein mubashrat (sex) kay ek se za'ed tareeqey ra'ej thay.

Missionary Tariqa (Missionary Position)

    Iss tariqey ko baadshah ka tariqa bhi kaha jata hai poori dunya mein sab sey zyada ma'aroof, aam aur zyada istimal honay wala tariqa yehi hai ba'az log ghalat tor per isey islami tareeqa samajhtey hain taa'hum aaj kal isey daqyanoosi aur boring tariqa samjha jata hai iss mein aurat neechey aur mard ooper hota hai, amooman aasan dakhool kay liye aurat ki kamar kay neechey takya rakha jata hai khusoosan agar aurat dubli patli aur uskay sareen (hips) bhi dubley patley hun, mard aurat ki donon taa'ngo'n kay darmyan ghutno'n kay bul bethta hai aurat ki taa'ngein mard kay donon taraf aur kabhi kandhon per hoti hain kabhi mard kay jism kay sath mili hui aur kabhi khuli, taa'ngein khuli hun to dakhool zyada aasaan ho jata hai.

    Iss tariqey kay bohut saarey fawaed hain naey shaadi shuda jorey kay liye yeh ek mufeed position hai iss mein dakhool aasan hai, iss position mein hamal theherna nisbatan aasan hai, wo mard jin ko tanau (erection) kam ho unn kay liye mufeed hai. Iss mein dakhool kay ba'ad amooman zakar faraj sey baher nahin nikalta, gehrey dakhool aur chotey zakar (small penis) kay liye yeh ek mu'asser tariqa hai. Iss surat mein biwi ki taa'ngein mard apney kandho'n per rakh leta hai, iss tarah agar mard chota hai aur aurat barey jism wali hai wahan yeh ek acha tariqa hai, ba'az mahireen kay mutabiq donon kay jald inzaal kay liye ek mufeed position hai woh afraad jo zyada der tak mubashrat kar saktey hain unn kay liye shaandaar aur zyada lutf angaez tariqa hai.

Missionary Position

 

 Iss tariqay mein control mard kay paas hota hai le'haza woh apni marzi sey harkat karta hai aur mubashrat sey zyada lutf uthata hai iss tariqey ka ek ahem faeda yeh hai kay iss mein khawand biwi kay hassas tareen hisson ko aasani sey mushta'il kar sakta hai jo kay har aurat ki jinsi lazzat aur orgasm kay husool kay liye bohut zaroori hai khawand biwi kay bazer (clitoris), faraj (vagina), androoni lub (labias) aur pistaan (breast) waghaera ko aasani sey mushta'il kar sakta hai woh biwi kay pistaanon ko choom aur choos sakta hai. Iss kay ooper laet kar iss kay pistaano'n sey apney seeney ka massage kar kay bharpoor lutf utha sakta hai, dakhool kay ba'ad aurat khud bhi apney bazer waghaera ko mushta'il kar sakti hai jo kay uss kay orgasm kay liye zaroori hai, iss tariqey mein baiwi khawand kay zakar aur khusyo'n ko mushta'il kar sakti hai jo khawand kay liye saher angaez hai.

    Taa'hum iss tariqey ki kuch khamiya'n bhi hain maslan yah tariqa unn afraad kay liye amooman badtareen hai jo sur'at e inzal (premature ejaculation) kay mareez hain yani jo jald manzil (discharge) ho jatey hain kyun kay iss tariqey mein amooman mard jald manzil ho jata hai agarcha ba'az afraad kay liye yeh theek hai kyun kay control mard kay paas hota hai, agar mard ka wazan zyada ho to wahan yeh ghaer munasib tariqa hai kyun kay aurat kay liye khawand ka wazan sambhalna mushkil hota hai iss tariqey mein amooman aurat harkat nahin kar sakti le'haza woh sex sey bharpoor andaz mein lutf andoz nahin ho sakti iss tarah chu'nkay aurat ko dakhool per control hasil nahin hota jis ki wajah sey ba'az auqaat gehrey dakhool sey aurat ko takleef hoti hai.  

Mubashrat Kay Tariqey

Insaan fitri tor per tanawwa'a (variety) aur jiddat ka aashique hai, intehaee khubsoorat cheez aur intihaee lazeez khana bhi jald hi apni kashish kho deta hai insan sex mein variety ko pasand karta hai, jinsi amal mein aurat khaas tor per kisi bhi ek tariqey sey jald boriyat ka shikaar ho jati hai. Rozana ek hi tariqey sey mubashrat aurat ko jald ukta deti hai phir woh ahista ahista mubashrat mein dilchaspi kho deti hai aur iss sey katraney lagti hai hatta kay inkar tak kardeti hai, le'haza azdwajii zindagi (sexual life) ko zyada purjosh banaey rakhney kay liye zaroori hai kay har martaba foreplay aur mubashrat ka naya tariqa apnaya jaey aurat bohut ma'amooli tabdeeli mein tanaww'a (variety) ka lutf hasil karleti hai chuna'ncha mahireen ney bohut sey mubashrat kay tariqey (sex positions) beyaan kiye hain kook shastro'n mein 80 sey zyada sex positions (tariqo'n) ka zikr hai 4-6 ko chor kar baqi mein ma'amooli farq hai.        

     Ba'az muslim ahl e qalam ney mubashrat kay missionary tariqey (mard ooper aurat neechey) ko fitri aur islami tariqa qaraar diya hai woh iss tariqey ko Quran majeed ki iss ayat "Jab mard ney aurat ko dhaa'np liya to usko halka sa hamal reh gaya" (sura a'araaf 189) sey akhaz kartey hain haala'n kay koi bhi tariqa na fitri hai na islami, iss silsilaey mein Quran majeed mein wa'zeh ishara hai "tumhari biwiya'n tumharey khaet hain so apney khaet mein jis tarah sey chaho aao jis jagah Allah ney tumko ijazat di hai" (baqra 28)

Male Genitalia - Penis

 Jinsi tor per mard ka hassas tareen hissa us ka Penis (zakar) hai us ko chuuna, mushta'il karna mard kay lutf mein dramaee tor per izafa karta hai magar khawateen ko iss baat ka ehsaas nahin humarey haan taqreeban sari biwiya'n iss ko hath lagatey huey darti hain ya sharmati hain, agar aap ko yeh bohut acha nahin lagta to apney jism ko khawand ki paero ki huddi kay sath press karei'n taa'hum khawand chahta hai kay iss ki biwi iss kay zakar ko chaerey, mushta'il karey magar woh iss sey duur rahti hai jis ki wajah sey woh jhunjhlaahat ka shikaar ho jata hai. Khawand ki mohabbat jeetney kay liye biwi ko isey chuna aur mukhtalif andaz sey mushta'il karna hi hoga, aurat ko yeh baat jaan leni chahiyie kay zakar ko bila wasta chuna mard kay liye intihaee pur lutf aur sab sey zyada lutfangaez hai, khawand ki aashiq aur dil jeetney wali biwi mard kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko bila wasta mushta'il karegi, chuna'ncha woh mukhtalif andaz sey mard kay zakar aur khusyon ko mushta'il kar kay usko apna ghulam bana legi. 

    Mard kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko mushta'il kartey waqt khusoosi ehtiyaat ki zaroorat hai kyun kay agar inn ko zyada der tak ya zyada josh kay sath mushta'il kya jaey to amooman mard mubashrat sey pehley hi manzil ho jaega bul kay bohut sey khawand  surat e inzal (premature ejaculation) ka shikaar hain woh to hassas hisso'n ko chutey hi manzil ho jatey hain.

Male Genital Stimulation

Khawand kay hassas tareen hissey yani zakar (penis) ko ka'ee tarah sey mushta'il (stimulate) kya ja sakta hai maslan ;

• Foreplay kay doran kabhi kabhar khawand kay zakar (penis) ko pakrein aur uski topi ko hutheli sey thapthapaei'n, halki halki zarb lagaei'n apney pistaan (breast) sey thapthapae'n aur rugrei'n iss kay sath zakar (penis) ka nipples kay sath rugerna mard kay liye bohut lutf ka baa'iss hai. Iss kay elawa zakar (penis) ko khawand kay paet per lita kar hath sey thapthapaei'n ya ek hath sey isey uss kay paet kay sath press karei'n doosrey hath ki ulti ungliya'n uss kay ooper ahista ahista rugrei'n aur kuch der ba'ad seedhi ungliya'n phaerei'n, inn sey massage karein yeh mard kay liye bey panaah lutf angaez hai.
• Tanau (erection) sey pehley ek hath sey zakar (penis) ko jarr sey pakrei'n aur doosrey hath ki chikni hutheli ko topi kay ooper rakhei'n aur phir hutheli ko chotey chakker ki surat mein golaee mein rugrei'n.
• Iss tareeqey mein donon hath istimaal hongey donon haatho'n ko achi tarah chikna karlei'n ek hath sey zakar (penis) ko neechey sey pakrein, doosrey hath mein zakar (penis) ko pakrei'n saari muttthi band na karei'n, sirf angoothey aur sath wali ungli sey circle banaei'n phir ooper neechey harkat karei'n, jab ooper topi ki taraf aaei'n to angoothey sey topi kay neechey kay hissey wali jhilli ko jo topi aur shaft sey mili hoti hai, halki si chot lagaei'n. Isi tarah jab ooper pohonchei'n to zakar (penis) ko zor sey bhee'nchei'n, sath hi topi per angoothey sey halki si zarb lagaein jab neechey ko aaei'n to daba'u kam kar dein aur hath ko khol dein iss kay sath hi khusyo'n ya khusyo'n (testicles) aur maq'ad kay darmyan wali jagah per halka sa daba'u daalei'n.
   
  Male Genital Stimulation 
   

  • zakar (penis) ki jarr (base) kay neechey wali dheeli jild ko angoothey aur sath wali do ungliyo'n sey pakrei'n doosrey chikney hath sey zakar (penis) ko mutthi mein pakrei'n mutthi ko ooper letey jaei'n aur sath sath iss ko iss tarah bhee'nchei'n jiss tarah maaltey ka juice nichorra jata hai iss ko ooper tak ka'ee baar zor sey bhee'nchei'n aur chor dei'n.
  • Apney khawand kay zakar (penis) ko donon hath sey pakrei'n, ek mutthi ooper ho aur doosri neechey, haatho'n ko chikna kar liya jaey donon haatho'n ko ooper neechey ley kar jaei'n aur sath sath donon mutthiyo'n ko mukhalif sumt mein marorei'n, bul (twist) dein raftaar aur daba'u ko badaltey rahei'n kabhi kam aur kabhi zyada. 
     
  • Ek chikney hath sey mian kay zakar (penis) ko bilkul neechey sey pakrei'n phir neechey sey ooper ko stroke lagaein, jab pehla hath ooper aa ajey to phir foran doosrey hath sey yehi karei'n, yaksaniyat aur rhythm kay sath musalsal aisa karti rahein. Kuch der ba'ad sumt (direction) badal lein yani ab janwar kay doodh dohney ki tarah ooper neechey ko wohi harkat karein yeh bohut pur lutf hai. 
     
  • Uss kay zakar (penis) ko jarr (base) sey mazbooti sey pakrein aur phir angoothey ko topi kay ooper chakkar ki soorat phaerei'n, rugrei'n, masaj karein, iss kay sat bohut pyar sey topi kay neechey wali jhilli ko angoothey aur ungli mein ley kar masaj karein.
  • Mian kay zakar (penis) ki jarr ko dheeli khaal (skin) sey pakrein doosrey hath kay angoothey aur sath wali ungli sey topi kay bilkul neechey jahan topi aur shaft aapas mein miltey hain challa banaei'n phir iss challey ko marorei'n, bul dein kabhi kabhi iss challey ko topi tak ley jaei'n aur phir topi sey baher nikal kar dobara neechey sey shuru karein iss amal ko baar baar dohrae'in yeh mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai.

   

  • Shahadat aur bari ungli ko chikna karein donon ungliyo'n ka do shaakha bana lein aur zakar (penis) ko un kay darmiyan pakar lein ahista ahista ooper neechey karein ungliyo'n kay joro'n yani gaa'ntho'n sey topi kay neechey wali jagah ko thori thori der ba'ad dabaei'n ungliyo'n ki graft ko kabhi dheela karein aur kabhi kuss lein, kabhi khol dein aur kabhi tung kar dein. 
     
  • Apni dono'n hutheliyo'n ko aapas mein milaei'n, mian kay zakar (penis) ko inn kay ander daakhil karein phir hutheliyo'n ko aagey peechey iss tarah rugrei'n jis tarah haatho'n ko mala jata hai sath hi ooper neechey bhi harkat dein raftaar aur daba'u ko badaltey rahei'n kabhi kam aur kabhi zyada. 
     
  • Khawand kay taney (erected) zakar (penis) ko mazbooti sey ek hath mein pakrei'n doosrey hath ki hutheli ko chotey chakker ki surat mein topi kay ooper rugrei'n phir hutheli ko zakar (penis) ki sides per ooper neechey rugrei'n phir zakar (penis) ko mutthi mein pakar lein aur isey marorei'n (twist) aur mutthi ko ooper neechey le jaei'n. Ab topi ko ooper sey ungliyo'n mein pakrein aaram aur pyar sey bhee'nchei'n, chor dein, phir bhee'nchei'n, phir chor dein ka'ee baar iss tarah karein iss kay elawa ungliyo'n ko topi per iss tarah ghumaei'n jis tarah bottle ka dhakken khola jata hai, ya lemon nichora jata hai, yeh bohut lutf angaez hai. 
     
  • zakar (penis) ko dono'n haathon mein pakrei'n phir bari bari kabhi ek angoothey aur kabhi doosrey angoothey sey zakar (penis) kay soorakh ko aaram sey ooper neechey rugrei'n phir bari ehtiyat sey ek angoothey ko zakar (penis) ki darz (slit) mein daakhil karein aur pyar sey massage karein angootha dhula ho warna infection ka darr hota hai.

Foreplay Methods - Forepley Ka Tareeqa

Woh bohut jald inzal kay qareeb pohonch jaey ga, iss ko control karna uss kay liye bohut mushkil hoga, le'haza aap apney mia'n ki pasand kay bar'aks pehley uss kay kam hassas hisso'n ko mushta'il karein aur phir aakhir mein zyada hassas hisso'n ko taa kay foreplay lamba ho sakey aur iss doran aap kay jinsi jazbaat bhi poori tarah mushta'il ho jaei'n.
 

    Foreplay mein sab sey pehley kapro'n samaet ek doosrey kay jism per haath phaerei'n, uss sey baghal geer hun, galey lagein, pyar sey chimtei'n, seeney sey lagaei'n, bhee'nchei'n aur lipat jaei'n waghaera, ek ma'aqool waqt bos o kinar (kissing) per surf karei'n khawand kay mu'nh kay andar kiss karein, uss kay rukhsaaro'n ko choomei'n, uss kay dono'n hont apney honto'n mein lei'n aur choosei'n mard kay neechey waley hont aur zakar ka aapas mein bila wasta ta'alluq hota hai, khusoosan uss ko ahista ahista chabaei'n, kaatei'n unn kay gird zubaan phaerei'n, papotey, kaan ki louei'n, gardan kay agley aur pichley hissey ko chumei'n, massage karei'n, honto'n sey chabaei'n, kaatei'n, thori kay neechey galey kay bilkul darmyaan mein neechey collar bone tak ka hissa bohut hassas hota hai, iss per zubaan phaere'in, iss ko chumei'n mia'n ko bohut lutf aaey ga, woh bhi aisa hi kar sakta hai jis sey aap lutf andoz hongi. 

    Ek doosrey kay kaprey utaarei'n, apney apney bhi utaarey ja saktey hain, behter yeh hai kay change kay liye kabhi khud utaarei'n kabhi ek doosrey kay utarei'n ab phir uss kay saarey jism per hath phaerei'n ungliyo'n ki pauro'n sey uss kay poorey jism ko explore karei'n, uss kay sar kay baalo'n mein pyar sey ungliya'n phaerei'n, uss kay seeney per hath phaerei'n nipples ko cherei'n unn kay gird zubaan phaerei'n

 Inn ko choosei'n, kaatei'n, mia'n ki raano'n kay androoni hisso'n ko chuei'n, thapthapaei'n, chumei'n khusoosan jahan raan aur dharh miltey hain wahan zuban phaerna mard ko bohut pasand hai, yeh usey bohut lutf deta hai uss kay poorey jism per boso'n ki baarish kar dei'n, mard ki baghal bhi ek hassas hissa hai uska baazu ooper uthaei'n wahan hath sey thapthapaei'n, nakhun sey pyar sey khurchei'n, wahan zuban golaee mein phaerei'n yeh mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai. Baghlo'n ki khushbuu sey aap bhi lutf andoz ho sakti hain agar aap ko buu na pasand ho to wahan apni pasand ka perfume spray karlei'n mard kay sareen khusoosan uss kay thora neechey wala hissa bhi hassas hai. Sareen ko chuei'n, tatolei'n, sehlaei'n, chutki lei'n aur pyar sey thapthapaei'n. Apney honto'n ko chikna karlei'n aur phir sareen kay neechey waley zyada hassas hissey per honto'n sey English ka 8 bar bar banaei'n, yeh mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai iss hissey per zubaan phaerna bhi mard ko acha lagta hai. Mubashrat mein jab mard ooper ho to uss kay sareen ko pakrei'n aur ek rhythm kay sath zor zor sey bhee'nchei'n khusoosan mia'n kay jhatko'n kay sath aur jab woh inzaal kay qareeb ho to iss hassas jagah ko apney naakhuno'n sey khurchei'n.  Mard kay ba'az jismani hisso'n ko chuney aur dabaney sey mard ko bohut lutf milta hai maslan hutheliyo'n kay bilkul darmiyani hissey ko musalsal zor sey angoothey sey dabana, tukhno'n kay neechey garho'n ko ungliyo'n ki poro'n sey dabaei'n aur kuch der dabaey rakhei'n, iss kay elawa aaram sey masaj bhi kya jasakta hai, pao'n kay angoothey kay sath wali ungli kay neechey apney hath ka angootha rakhei'n isey dabaey aur thapthapei'n waisey poorey pao'n ki maalish bhi mard kay liye lutf angaez hai.

Mard kay pao'n ka angootha bohut hassas hai ba'az mahireen ka khayal hai kay yeh mard kay jinsi a'aaz'a (male genitalia) ki tarah hassas hai angoothey kay gird zuban phaerna, isey choosna mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai. Dono'n angootho'n ko bari bari choosei'n aur zuban phaerei'n, mard kay liye kaatna bhi bohut lutf angaez hai le'haza bos o kinar (kissing) kay sath jism kay mukhtalif hisso'n waghaera ko honto'n aur daanto'n sey pyar sey chabana, dabana, kaatna waghaera mard kay liye pur lutf hota hai.

    Haatho'n kay elawa kisi bhi narm aur mulaem cheez sey massage karna mardo'n ko pasand hai, yah cheezei'n jinsi jazbaat bharkaati hain koi silky kapra khusoosan satin, silk waghaera lein aur iss sey khawand kay jism ka massage karei'n iss kay elawa khushbudaar oil sey massage karna bhi lutf angaez hai, khusoosan apney pistaan (chest) sey uss kay jism kay mukhtalif hisso'n ka massage karei'n khusoosan khawand ka seena aur pusht waghaera uss kay seeney sey lipat jaei'n usko saamney sey aur peechey sey khoob mohabbat sey bheen'chei'n, zahir hai kay yah sab baghaer kapr'on kay hoga.

     Apney nangey jism ko khawand kay jism kay sath rugrei'n iss kay kaee tareeqey ho saktey hain maslan samney sey baghal geer ho kar apney pistaan ko mia'n kay seeney kay sath ragrei'n, sath hi apni taangei'n aur raanei'n uski raano'n kay sath ragrei'n, a'aaza e makhsoosa (female genitalia) ko uss kay jism kay sath ragrei'n , apney mia'n kay sath peechey sey lipat jaei'n, apni chaatiyo'n sey uski kamar ka massage karei'n, sath hi gardan ko choomei'n kaatei'n, hath uss kay seeney per phaerei'n, uss kay nipples ko ungli aur angoothey mein ley kar pyar sey maslei'n mia'n kay liye pur lutf hai. 

 Khawand bister kay kinarey per bethey, us kay samney full size ka aaena ho, aap uss kay peechey taa'ngei'n khol kar iss tarah bethei'n kay aap ki taa'ngei'n uss kay donon taraf hun iss kay sath iss tarah jurr kay bethein kay aap ki naaf kay neechey wala hissa uss kay neechey waley hissey ko press karey, aap kay pistaan (breast) uss ki kamar ko press karei'n apney haatho'n ko achi tarah chikna karlei'n aur uss kay seeney per phaerei'n aur ungliya'n uss kay nipples ko chuei'n aur mushta'il karei'n kuch der kay liye ungliyo'n ko kuch neechey le jaein aur paet kay nichley hissay per pyar se phaerei'n phir mazeed neechey ja kar zakar (penis) ko mushta'il karein , phir aur neechey khusyey (testicles) ko cherei'n aur mushta'il karein inn ko thora sa dabaei'n, zakar ki shaft per zarb lagaei'n iss kay sath sath apney jism ko uski kamar kay sath mazeed press karei'n aur rugrei'n jab kay khawand yeh sab kuch aaeiney mein dekhey yeh khawand kay liye nihayat lazzat aamaez hai.

    Mardo'n kay khusyey (testicles) jinsi le'haz sey bohut hassas hotey hain, mardo'n kay liye inko chuuna, sehlana, chaerna, bosa lena waghaera bohut lutf angaez hai inko kaee tarah sey mushta'il kya ja sakta hai, khusyo'n ko bohut ehtiyaat sey angoothey aur sath wali ungli sey bilkul ooper (jarr) sey pakrei'n doosrey hath ki hutheli ko chukker ki soorat mein in kay nichley hissey per halka halka phaerei'n aur doosrey hath se iss jagah ko mukhtalif andaaz maslan bundh mutthi (knuckles) aur hutheli kay nichley hissey waghaera se bar bar dabaei'n. Donon sareen kay darmyaan ungli phearna aur maq'ad ko charo'n taraf sey golaee mein ungli sey mushta'il karna mard kay liye bohut pur lazzat hai.

Foreplay -Mohabbat Ka Khel

Jadeed research foreplay foreplay (mohabbat ka khel) ko bohut zyada ahmiat deti hai kaha jata hai kay jinsi amal mein sab sey zyada lutf angaez cheez foreplay (mohabbat ka khel) hai jab kay mubashrat to lutf ka khatima hai. Allah kay nabi ney 1400 saal pehley hi jinsi khel sey pehley mubashrat sey mana farmaya yani foran mubashrat shuru na ki jaey. Wa'zeh rahey kay bos o kinar sey na wuzu toot'ta hai aur na hi roza. (abu daud, nisaee, ahmad, bukhari, muslim)

     Fitri tor per mard jinsi tor per bohut jald beadaar ho jata hai aur foran mubashrat kay liye tayyar ho jata hai aur do, teen minute mein inzal hasil kar leta hai, iss tarah iss ka saara amal teen, char minute mein mukammal ho jata hai. Iss kay bur'aks aurat kay jinsi jazbaat jald beadaar nahin hotey, jinsi baedaari kay liye usko mard ki nisbat 10 gunaa zyada waqt ki zaroorat hai yani aurat ko jinsi baedaari aur orgasm hasil karney kay liye kam az kam 30 minute ki zaroorat hai. Jinsi baedaari kay liye aurat ko kam az kam 20 minute ki chaer chaar, ishti'aal aur foreplay (foreplay (mohabbat ka khel)) ki zaroorat hai, chu'n kay humarey haan mard o khawateen iss baat sey aagah nahin jis ki wajah sey khawateen ki bohut bari ta'adaad jinsi lutf sey mehroom ho kar jinsi dilchaspi kho deti hain.

     Aurat apney saarey jism ko chuna pasand karti hai woh chahti hai kay pehley uss kay kam hassas hissey ko chu'aa jaey, 

 Foreplay - Mohabbat Ka Khel

 Phir zyada hassas hisso'n ko mushta'il kya jaey aur aakhir mein hassas tareen hisso'n ko jab kay mard chahta hai kay uss kay hassas tareen hissey ko chuaa jaey, doosri taraf agar mard kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko jald mushta'il kya jaey to woh jald inzaal kay qareeb pohonch jata hai aur phir agar woh manzil ho jaey to aurat amooman orgasm hasil nahin kar pati aur woh bharpoor jinsi lutf sey mehroom rehti hai mohabbat ka taweel khel dar'asal aurat ki zaroorat hai mard ki nahin.

    Mard chu'n kay pehley hi jinsi tor per tayyar hota hai le'haza isey biwi ko tayyar karney kay sath apney aap ko bhi control karna hota hai (iss silsilay mein biwi bhi madad kar sakti hai jis ka zikr aagey hoga) le'haza foreplay mein donon mia'n biwi ki zyada ter tawajjah biwi kay jinsi jazbaat baedaar karney ki taraf ho. Biwi iss silsilay mein khawand ko zubaani ya ishaaro'n sey bataey kay woh iss kay kin hisso'n ko kis tarah mushta'il karey ya phir woh mia'n ka hath pakar kar uss ki rehnumaee karey kay woh kahan kya karey taa kay uss (biwi) kay jazbaat jald baedaar ho jaein, khawand kay sath biwi khud bhi apney jazbaat mushta'il kar sakti hai bul kay behter tor per kar sakti hai kyun kay woh apney jism ko khawand sey behter janti hai humarey haan foreplay mein amooman mard hi fa'aal kirdaar ada karta hai jab kay aurat ghaer fa'aal rehti hai yeh cheez mard ko bohut na gawar guzarti hai chuna'ncha aurat ko bhi khushgawar azdawajii zindagi kay liye foreplay mein fa'aal kirdaar ada karna chahiyie.

    Mard ko yeh baat bohut pasand hai kay uss kay jism kay zyada hassas hisso'n zakar waghaera ko mushta'il kya jaey magar chu'n kay mard apni jismani saakht ki wajah sey pehley hi jinsi tor per baedaar hota hai le'haza agar biwi uski pasand kay mutabiq uss kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko mushta'il karey gi to

Intercourse Tips

6. Kamrey ka mahol (environment) romantic bana lein roshni madhdham ho agar rangeen ho to aur bhi acha hai, mom batti ki roshni mahol ko bohut saher angaez bana deti hai iss ki roshni mein aurat ka jism zyada khoobsurat dikhaee deta hai, air freshner ka istimal karein khushboo aap donon ki pasand ki ho.

      7. Shaadi per itna khurch kartey hain to kuch khurch apney bister per zaroor karein bister kushaada ho yani double bed ho taa kay harkat mein aasani ho gaddey bohut zyada narm na hun zyada narm bister per jism ander ko dhuns jata hai jis ki wajah sey harkat karney mein dushwari hoti hai. Bister sey charcharahat ki aawazei'n nahin aani chahiyie'n bister ki chadarei'n khush rung, shokh aur nihayat mulaem hun masaln satin aur silk waghaera ki, cotton aur khurduri chaderei'n sara maza kharab kar deti hain. Mumkin ho to farash per qaleen ya moti dari bichi ho taa kay kabhi kabhar change kay liye neechey mubashrat ki ja sakey, khwab gaah mein ek adad bara aaena bhi ho taa kay wahan aap apna bana o singhaar check kar sakein.

      8. Mard chu'n kay bunyadi tor per bazarya basaarat yani kisi cheez ko dekh kar jinsi tor per mushta'il hota hai le'haza aap ka libaas khush rung, mulaem aur silky ho libaas ki banawat aisi ho kay aap kay khoobsurat a'azaa'a maslan chaati waghaera zyada numaya'n aur pur kashish mehsoos hun. Libas ka rung khawand ki pasand ka ho iss tarah jun'hi khawand aap ko dekhey ga us kay jazbaat bharak uthei'n gey aur jab woh narm libaas kay ooper sey aap kay jism per haath phaerey ga to us kay jazbaat mein aag lag jaegi. Iss kay sath khawand ki pasand ki khushboo bhi istimaal karein siwaey galey kay locket kay baaqi zaewraat utaar dein.

Khawand ki pasand kay mutabiq halka sa make up karein amooman mardo'n ko zyada make up pasand nahin hota iss silsiley main aap khawand sey pooh sakti hain kay usko kya acha lagta hai. Humarey haan ajeeb sitam zareefi hai kay shuru mein to biwiya'n inn cheezo'n ka khayal karti hain magar chund baras guzar janey kay ba'ad wo libaas aur jismaani safaee ka khayal nahin rakhtii'n, ghar mein aksar auqaat unn kay kaprey gandey hotey hain, haatho'n sey pyaz aur adrak ki buu aa rahi hoti hai, jism paseena ki buu sey labraez hota hai yah sab cheezein mard kay jinsi jazbaat ko sard karney kay liye kafi hoti hain. Aurat iss rawayye ki wajah sey apni kashish kho deti hai magar yehi aurtein jab bazaar jaeingi to naha dho kar ban sanwar kar jaeingi haala'n kay aurat ki shakal o surat, libaas aur jism ko humesha khawand kay liye pur kashish hona chahiyie. Iss kay liye aurat ko sha'oori koshish karni chahiyie hadees e nabvi ka mafhoom hai kay biwi ki zahiri shakal o surat aisi ho kay khawand dekhey to khush ho jaey libaas kay elawa biwi kay chehrey pe muskuraahat ho.

    9.   Mubashrat sey pehley ek doosrey kay kaprey utaarna bhi ek lutf angaez marhala hai le'haza aurat ka izarbund aur bra kay hook iss qism kay hun jisey khawand aasani sey khol sakey warna ba'surat e deegar izarband aur bra ko utartey utartey uss kay jazbaat sard parjaeingey.

    10. Mubashrat faraj (vagina) mein ho gi aurat ka khayal hota hai kay mard ko ilm hota hai kay zakar kab daakhil karna hai jab kay mard ko ilm nahin hota le'haza jab aurat kay jinsi jazbaat urooj per hun to woh mia'n ko daakhil karney ka ishara karey iss kay sath hi dakhool mein mia'n ko madad karey taa kay khawand ko dakhool mein diqqat na ho.

 Iss kay liye aurat penis (zakar) ko hath sey pakar kay vagina (faraj) mein daakhil kar sakti hai ya apney donon labias (lub) achi tarah khol dey taa kay khawand zakar ko aasani kay sath daakhil kar sakey humarey haan chu'n kay biwiyio'n ko iss baat ka ilm nahin le'haza woh dakhool mein khawand ki rehnumaee nahin kartiin jis ki wajah sey bohut sey khawand rehnumaee ki adum mojoodgee mein aasani sey dakhool nahin kar patey aur iss koshish mein baher hi manzil ho jatey hain yeh cheez biwi kay liye shadeed frustration aur khawand kay liye sharmindagi ka baa'iss hoti hai.

      11.  Mahireen ka khayal hai kay jab tak aap donon kay liye jinsi amal sey lutf andoz honey kay liye kafi waqt na ho iss ki koshish na ki jaey, iss kay liye aap kay pass kam az kam ek ghantey ka waqt ho tub aap foreplay (mohabbat kay khel) aur intercourse (mubashrat) sey bharpoor andaaz mein lutfandooz hosakein gi. Aurat ko to jinsi amal kay liye tayyar honey mein hi aadha ghanta lag jata hai.

     12.  Jaisey kay peechey bataya ja chuka hai kay mubashrat sirf faraj mein hogi maq'ad mein qata'an haram hai Hazrat Abu Huraera sey rivayat hai kay Hazrat Muhammad ney farmaya jo shakhs apni aurat ki maq'ad mein budfaeli karey woh mal'oon hai, khuda uski taraf nazr e rehmat sey nahin dekhta (tirmazi, abudaud). Budqismati sey humarey haan bhi ab kuch khawand yeh harkat kartey hain merey paas aisey kaee case aaey. Le'haza iss surat mein biwi ko kabhi bhi khawand ko iss amal ki ijazat nahin deni chahiyie warna woh khud bhi gunah gaar hogi agar kabhi ghalti sey ek aadh baar ho jaey to surf e nazar karein, ba'soorat e deegar pehley apney khawand ko samjhaei'n warna iss ma'amley ko donon khaandano'n kay samney paesh karei'n. Iss tarah islam mein haez o nifaas kay doran bhi mubashrat sey mana kya gaya hai chuna'ncha irshaad hai "Haez (menses) mein aurto'n sey bacho inn sey qurbat na karo jab tak woh paak na ho lein to jab paak ho jaein to inn kay paas iss jagah sey aao jis ka Allah ney tumko hukum diya hai."(al-baqarah 222) Intercourse during menses (haez/mahwaari mein mubashrat) na karney wali khawateen amooman rahem kay cancer sey mehfooz rehti hain.
13. Hazrat Aaesha farmati hain kay samajh daar aurat ko chahiyie kay ek alag kapra farigh rakhey jab uska shohar mubashrat sey faarigh ho jaey to isey usko thama dey apni safaee khud karey agar inn kay kapro'n mein janabat ka koi asar nahin pohoncha ho to woh inn kapro'n mein namaz parh saktey hain. (al-mufti)

    14.  Biwi apney khawand ko bataey kay Allah kay nabi ney fori tor per mubashrat sey mana farmaya hai kyun kay aurat ko jinsi tor per tayyar honay kay liye kuch waqt chahiyie. (zadulmea'ad) yani mubashrat foran shuru nahin kar deni chahiyie warna aap iss amal sey lutf andoz nahin hun gi.

    15.  Mubashrat sey pehley donon ye du'aa parh lein" Ya Allah humein shaetaan sey mehfooz rakh aur usko bhi (shaetaan sey mehfooz) rakh jo tu humein ata farmaey." (bukhari)

    16.  Ek mubashrat kay foran ba'ad agar doosri baar mubashrat karni ho to afzal yeh hai kay ghusl kar liya jaey ya phir wuzu kar liya jaey, tayummum bhi kya jasakta hai. Ya sirf a'aaza e makhsoosa (genitalia) ko dho liya jaey aur ghusl subah kar liya jaey lekin kuch khaney sey pehley wuzu karna sunnat hai.

    17.  Jun'hi khawand ka zakar biwi ki faraj mein daakhil ho jaey to donon per ghusl wajib ho jata hai chahey khawand manzil ho ya na ho.

Mubashrat Kay Aadaab

  Baghaer baazu wali kursi, cushion wali sukht bister, sukht mattress, do takyay sukht mubashrat kay waqt kamar kay neechey rakhney kay liye, do narm soney kay liye, chiknaahat koi achi cold cream paani mein hul honey wali jelly, badaam, coconut ya zaetun ka oil, Vaseline aur petroleum jelly hargiz istimaal na karein. Yeh faraj mein ja kar jum jati hai jis sey infection ka khatra hota hai. Safaee kay teen kaprey hun ek mota aur bara neechey bichaney kay liye, baqi do mia'n biwi kay liye.

     Mubashrat sey bharpoor lutf andoz honay kay liye mundarja zael ka khayal rakhna mufeed hoga.

1. Behter hai kay mubashrat kay din pehley sey taey shuda ho ya mia'n biwi ek doosrey ko waze'h isharey dein kay jinsi amal ka program hoga , waisey to koi bhi din ho sakta hai magar islam mein juma'a (friday) kay din ghusal ki fazeelat hai yani mubashrat juma'araat (thursday) ki raat ya juma'a sey pehley afzal hai. Hadees e nabvi hai kay jo koi juma'a kay din(apni biwi kay liye) ghusal ka saamaan karey aur khud ghusal karey, to us kay liye har qadam saal bhar kay amal ka badla hai goya saal bhar rozey sey raha aur unn ki raato'n mein qayam kya. (mishkat)

Ek doosri hadees mein irshaad hai: Jo koi juma'a kay din ghusl e janabat karta hai phir (juma'a ki namaz kay liye) sawaerey nikalta hai to goya us ney oou'nt (camel) ki qurbani paesh ki. (bukhari)

 Intercourse Preparation

    2.  Mubashrat kisi bhi waqt ki ja sakti hai din ho ya raat, taa'hum nabi kareem aksar raat kay pichley peher witr ki namaz ada karney kay baad mubashrat farmatey thay, iss waqt amooman fard zyada pur sukoon hota hai aur jald manzil nahin hota.

    3.  Jinsi amal kay liye baqa'eda tayyari ki jaey, khawand jald ghar aa jaey, biwi bhi jald kam khatam kar ley, bacho'n ko sula dey, mia'n biwi thakey huey na hun jismani aur zehni tor per pur sukoon hun khauf, pareshaani aur thakawat waghaera main mubashrat na ki jaey iss surat mein fard bharpoor lutf andoz nahin hota. Iss sham khana kam aur jald kha liya jaey, ghiza zood hazam ho yani mubashrat kay waqt paet bhara hua na ho.

    4.  Kamra aisa ho jahan sey aawazei'n doosrey kamro'n tak na pohonch sakein mubashrat kay doran fard jinsi haejaan mein aawazei'n nikalta hai, naey shaadi shuda couple mein iss ka khauf hota hai kay inn ki aawazei'n log na sun lein yeh khauf unn kay jazbaat ko sard kar deta hai iss surat mein halka phulka music lagaya ja sakta hai taa kay aawazei'n kamrey sey baher na jaein. Kamrey ka temperature munasib ho na garmi ho na sardi yani jagah pur sukoon ho, shor o ghul aur madaakhlat sey mehfooz, phone utaar dei'n warna phone ki ghanti aap kay jazbaat ko ek dum sard kar degi.

    5.  Donon mia'n biwi kay jism saaf suthrey aur har qism ki buu se paak hun, behter hai kay sham ko ghusal kar liya jaey, agar bathroom bedroom kay sath ho to mubashrat sey ek ghanta pehley donon ikaththey ek doosrey ko ghusal dein maqsad mael utaarna nahin bul kay ek doosrey kay lums sey lutf andooz hona hai, brush kar liya jaey taa kay muu'nh sey budbuu(smell) na aaey.

Biwi Ka Apney Jism Ka Jan'na

Iss mashq kay liye 30 minute sey ley kar 60 minute ek haftey kay liye rozana mukhtas karein, koshish karein kay iss doran koi aap ko disturb na karey apney kamrey mein chali jaein, kamrey ka temperature normal ho, na garmi ho na sardi, apney saarey kaprey bhi utaar lein. Ek barey aaeiney kay saamney kharey ho kar apney jism ka achi tarah jaeza lein, mukhtalif hisso'n ko dekhei'n kay kaisey lag rahey hain, apney khawand ki nazar sey dekhei'n, 10 minute kay ba'ad apney sarey jism per ungliya'n phaerein aur note karein kay kaisa lagta hai

 Exploring Female Body

 Chuuney kay andaaz ko badlei'n kabhi halka kabhi sukht, kabhi taez aur kabhi sust, apni ungliya'n apney baazou'n, taango'n aur paet waghaera per pherein, saari jild per haath phaerei'n, raano'n ki androoni janib ki jild aur pao'n kay talwo'n ka mawazna karei'n, isi tarah hont (lips), kaan, seena, sareen waghaera ki hiss ka mawazna karein. Jism ko iss tarah chuuei'n kay lutf andoz hun, jism kay mukhtalif hisso'n ko sehlaei'n, thapthapei'n, bheenchei'n, massage karein, chuumein waghaera maslan pistaan per mukhtalif andaaz sey haath phaerei'n. Donon haathon sey unko bheenchei'n, hutheli sey masaj karein, nipples kay gird ungliya'n phaerei'n, angoothey aur ungli sey nipples ko muslei'n, dabaei'n, aur unn kay ehsaasaat kay farq ko note karti jaaei'n. Iss tarah koolho'n pe haath pherei'n, unko alag alag haatho'n mein pakrei'n, zor sey bheenchei'n, unn per zarb lagaei'n, thappar aur mukkey maarei'n, unn donon kay darmiyan ungli phaerei'n aur mukhtalif ehsaasaat ko note karei'n, note karein kay aap ko kya acha laga. Naaf key neechey waley hissey, jahan baal hotey hain (pubic area) ko mukhtalif andaz sey mushta'il karein, narm aur sukht haath phaerei'n, iss hissey ko aata goondhnei'n ki tarah zor sey dabaei'n, isey haath mein pakar kar bheenchei'n. Ab andaam e nihanee ki taraf aa jaei'n, ooper waley hissey mein jahan baerooni lub miltey hain, bazer kay ooper waley hissey ko dabaei'n, bheenchei'n, ehsaasaat kay farq ko note karein.

    Ab sareen kay bul farash per beth jaei'n, farash thunda na ho, pao'n farash per hun, ghutney uthey huey aur taangei'n khuli hui, pehley aaeney ki madad sey aa'aza-e-makhsoosa ka jaeza lein phir chikni ungli sey baerooni lubo'n ko aur phir androoni lubo'n ko mukhtalif andaaz sey chuei'n, cherei'n, daei'n aur baei'n donon taraf kay lubo'n kay ehsaasaat ka mawazna karein. Faraj kay ander do ungliya'n daal kar g spot ko talash karein.

Clitoral Sensation - Bazer Ki Hassasiyat
 

Iss ko mushta'il karein faraj kay baerooni hissey ko mukhtalif andaaz sey mushta'il karein. Faraj (Vagina) kay daei'n baei'n hisso'n kay ehsaasaat ko check karein ab bazer per mutawajja hun, pehley iss ki shaft ko mukhtalif andaaz sey har taraf chuei'n, mushta'il karein aur ehsaasaat kay farq ko note karein mumkin hai kay daei'n hath wali aurat kay clitoris ka daaya'n hissa baei'n hissey sey 10 guna zyada hassas ho ab bazer (clitoral) kay tip ki taraf aaei'n iss ki topi ko ek taraf kar kay iss ko mukhtalif andaaz sey mushta'il karein kabhi aahista kabhi taez, kabhi kuch narmi sey kabhi zor aur sukhti sey bazer kay mukhtalif hisso'n ka masaj karein, neechey bunyaad sey ley kar ooper choti tak aur phir ehsaasaat kay farq ko note karein, aksar aurto'n ki tip zyada hassas hoti hai, aap apni sensations (hassasiyat) janei'n. Iss tarah sarey jism kay hassas hisso'n ki hassasiyat kay farq ko note karein aur janei'n kay aap ko kis hissey ko kis andaaz sey mushta'il karna zyada lutf deta hai. Ek haftey ki mushq kay ba'ad aap jaan leingi kay aap kay kis hissey ko kis tarah mushta'il kya jaey kay aap jald jinsi urooj ya orgasm hasil kar lein. Iss mashq kay doran aap bohut si dilchusp daryaaftei'n kareingi taa hum jinsi ehsaasaat kay le'haz sey har aurat doosri sey mukhtalif hai, ba'az auqaat to ek hi aurat kay jism kay mukhtalif hisso'n ki sensation (hassasiyat) badalti rehti hai maslan aaj bazer ki daei'n taraf zyada hassas hai to kal baei'n taraf zyada hassas hogi, apney in mukhtalif ehsaasaat ka achi tarah tajurba karei'n aur inko note karlein, phir apney khawand ko bataein taa kay woh aap ki azdawaji zindagi ko zyada khushgawar bana sakey.

    Iss tarah aap apney khawand kay bhi mukhtalif hisso'n khusoosan zakar (penis) kay mukhtalif hisso'n, khasyo'n aur khasyo'n aur maq'ad kay darmyaan wali jagah ko mukhtalif andaaz sey mushta'il karein aur poochein kay usey kya acha laga, yeh jaan kar aap usko bhi bharpoor jinsi lutf muhayya kar sakein gi.

Jinsi Le'haz Sey Hassas Hissey

Waisey to aurat aur mard ka tamam jism hi erogenous zones (jinsi le'haz sey hassas)hota hai magar kuch maqamaat doosro'n sey nisbatan zyada hassas hotey hain jinsi lutf kay liye ek doosrey kay hassas hisso'n sey aagahi hasil karna bohut zaroori hai.

Jinsi Le'haz Sey Aurat Kay Hassas Hissey

(Female Erogenous Zones)

Bazer (Clitoris)     Maahireen kay mutabiq aurat kay jism ka hassas tareen hissa uska bazer hai taa'hum kuch aurton ki faraj (vagina) zyada hassas hoti hai, bazer aurat kay a'aaza-e-makhsoosa kay ooper waley hissey mein jahan inner labias (androoni lub) miltey hain mojood hota hai yeh murghi ki kalghi ya matar kay daaney jaisa hota hai iss ka size amooman 1/ 4 ta 1/5 inch hota hai taa'hum iss ka size chota, bara ho sakta hai, bazer ko aurat ki taa'ngein khol kar aasani kay sath dekha ja sakta hai, achi tarah dekhney kay liye iss kay hood ko ek taraf kar dein.

G Spot - Female Erogenous Zones

Bazer (Clitoris) ko mushta'il karney sey aurat laaziman jinsi urooj hasil kar leti hai, yeh jinsi ishtia'al mein akarr jata hai magar jinsi ishtia'al kay urooj aur orgasm kay ba'ad sukarr jata hai. Bazer ka jinsi lutf kay elawa aur koi maqsad nahin chu'n kay yah faraj sey kafi duur taqreeban derh inch (1.5inch) kay faasley per hota hai jis ki wajah sey aam haalaat mein mubashrat kay doran zakar (penis) iss ko touch nahin karta isey amooman ungli sey hi chuna aur mushta'il karna parta hai, bazer ko chuna faraj kay chuney sey zyada lutf angaez hota hai. Aurat kay jinsi urooj kay ba'ad yeh zyada hassas ho jata hai phir aurat ko isey chuna napasand hota hai, chuney sey usey takleef hoti hai, taa'hum iski hassasiyat badalti rehti hai. Iska sab sey hassas hissa iska ooper wala hota hai agarchae iss kay pehlu (sides) bhi bohut hassas hotey hain. G Spot          Bazer kay ba'ad aurat ka doosra jinsi hissa g spot kehlata hai, iss ko ek german doctor Grafen Berg ney 1950 mein daryaaft kya aur ab yeh usi kay naam sey mosoom hai. Agar aurat muu'nh aasman ki taraf kar kay laet jaey to yeh maqam uski faraj kay ek do inch ander faraj ki ooper wali deewar mein hota hai. G spot ko mushta'il karne sey aurat zabardast orgasm hasil karti hai magar yeh orgasm khud lazzati (Masturbation) aur dakhool yani mubashrat kay orgasm sey mukhtalif hota hai magar bohut lutf angaez. Yeh amooman chotey lobia (kidney bean) ki shakal ka hota hai magar ragarney sey mushta'il ho kar dugna ho jata hai taa'hum har aurat kay G spot kay size aur maqam mein farq hota hai G spot mushta'il karne sey aurat ko jhatka lagta hai, jagah sooj jati hai

Female Physical Examination

Jismani Muaina

Female Physical Examination

    Meri ek female (khatoon) shagird ka andaza hai kay taqreeban 90% khawateen ko yeh ilm nahin kay mubashrat mein dakhool (penetration) hota hai, yani zakar (penis) faraj (vagina) mein dakhil hota hai. Merey khayal mein iss mein kuch mubaligha hai, taa'hum khawateen ki ek bari ta'adaad iss amar sey aagah nahin bul kay khawateen o hazraat ki aksaryat iss baat sey aagah nahin kay mubashrat mein exactly dakhool kahan hoga. Guzishta dinon merey paas ek naya shaadi shuda jora aaya unki shaadi ko 5 maah guzar chukey thay magar abhi tak mubashrat nahin hui thi larki ney mujhey bataya kay pehley 2 maah to donon ko ilm hi nahin tha kay mubashrat karni kahan hai. Yaqeen karein mardo'n  ki ek bari ta'adaad ko (taqreeban 90%) theek theek ilm nahin kay mubashrat kahan karni hai sirf andaza hai, iss liye yeh baat nihayat zaroori hai kay biwi ko apney Female Genitals (a'aaza e makhsoosa) ka tafseeli ilm ho kay konsi cheez kahan hai. Iss kay liye woh khud apney a'aaza e makhsoosa ka achi tarah mua'aina karey aur iss ka ilm hasil karey phir apney mia'n ko bhi iska mufassil mua'aina karwaey taa kay usko bhi ilm ho kay konsi cheez kahan hai taa kay ghalti ka imkaan na rahey.

    Female Genitals (A'aaza-e-makhsoosa) kay mufassil mua'ainey kay liey kam az kam 30 minute makhtus karein mua'aina uss waqt karein jab aap pur sukoon hun, apney kamrey mein chali jaei'n, kamrey mein aap akeli hun ander sey kundi laga lei'n taa kay koi aap ko disturb na kar sakey, apne neechey waley kaprey utar lei'n, saarey kaprey bhi utarey ja sakte hain, kamrey ka temperature munasib ho, na garmi ho na sardi, sareen (hips) kay bul farash per beth jaei'n

Female Genital Organs  Taangei'n aagey ko phela lei'n magar ghutney kharey hun taangei'n thori si khol lein aapka muunh roshni ki taraf ho bister per na bethei'n woh narm hota hai jis ki wajah sey fard neechey ko dhuns jata hai jis ki wajah sey sahi mua'aina nahin ho sakey ga. Mua'ainey kay waqt ek aainey ko Female Genital organs (a'aaza e makhsoosa) kay bilkul samney rakh kar unka sarsari jaeza laein phir ek hath mein torch pakrein aur doosre hath se a'aaza-e-makhsoosa kay baerooni labon ko kholein to iss kay neechey aapko surkh rang kay androoni lab nazar aaeingey, inka ba'ghor jaeza lein ooper ki taraf jahan androoni lab miltey hain wahan aap ko ek dana sa nazar aaega jo kay aap ka bazer (clitoris) hai. Iss kay ooper topi si hoti hai agar aap apni zubaan ko baher nikal kar us sey apni thori ko chooney ki koshish karein to zubaan neechey latak jaegi iss tarah bazer neechey ko latak raha hota hai iss ka kuch hissa jism kay ander aur kuch bahar hota hai. Iss sey taqreeban ek inch neechey peeshaab ki naali ka suraakh hota hai, iss sey bhi neechay faraj (vagina) hoti hai, bilkul neechey magar labon kay baher maq'ad (anus) hoti hai. Itminaan kay sath inn sab a'aazaa ka achi tarah mua'aina karein kay konsi cheez kahan hai taa kay mubashrat kay waqt aap dakhool mein khawand ki rehnumaee aur madad kar sakein. Kahin aisa na ho kay khawand mubashrat kay waqt koi ghalti kar bethey. Guzishta dinon merey paas Europe sey ek naujawan elaaj ki gharaz sey aya usey aurat kay a'aaza e makhsoosa ka tafseeli ilm na tha chuna'ncha pehli raat mubashrat kay doran ghalti sey usney maq'ad mein dakhool kya jis ki wajah sey bohut sey masa'il paeda ho gaey, aakhir kaar usey biwi ko talaq deni pari. Khawand ka biwi kay jism ko dekhna gunah nahin. Hazrat Muhammad ka irshad hai kay apni sharam gaah ko pardey mein rakho magar apni biwi sey na chupao. (abu daud, ahmed, tirmazi)

Sexually Active Women - Jinsi Amal Mein Fa'aal Aurat

Le'haza aurat ko bharpoor muhabbat hasil karney kay liye bharpoor sex muhayya karni hogi. Ghareloo jhagro'n ki ek bohut bari wajah aurat ka mard ko bharpoor sex ka muhayya na karna hai, mard unn aurton kay shaeda'ee hotey hain jo unko bharpoor sex deti hain aur kabhi inkaar nahin kartiin.

    Humarey haan taqreeban tamam biwia'n sexually active (jinsi amal mein fa'aal) kirdar ada nahin kartiin kabhi pehel nahin kartiin, jinsi amal kay doran woh ek zinda laash ki tarah bey hiss pari rehti hain jo kuch karna hota hai mard hi karta hai, khawateen to apney jinsi lutf ka izhaar bhi nahin kartiin. Aisi surat mein khawand manzil to ho jata hai magar sex sey lutfandoz nahin ho pata yani usko bharpoor sex nahin milti jiski wajah sey woh biwi ko bharpoor mohabbat nahin dey pata.  Shayad khawateen ka khayal hai kay agar woh sexually active (jinsi fa'aal) hongi to khawand unko pasand nahin karey ga haqeeqat yeh hai kay aksar mard unn aurton ko pasand kartey hain jo jinsi amal mein fa'aal (sexually active) kirdaar ada karti hain aur khawand ko batati hain kay woh unkay sath sex sey lutf andoz hoti hain. 

    Amooman khayal kya jata hai kay zyada mubashrat sehat kay liye nuqsan deh hai jab kay haqeeqat bilkul iss kay ulat hai, aurton mein jinsi hormones ki zyada miqdaar aurat ki haddiyon ko mazboot karti hai jo kay menopause mein patli ho jati hain aur inn kay tootney ka khatra barh jata hai, iss kay elawa Estrogen ki zyada miqdaar khawateen ko dil kay masa'il sey bhi bachati hai aur zindagi ko khushi ka ehsaas deti hai. Baqaeda sex ki wajah sey aurat san yaas (menopause) kay bohut sey masa'il sey buch jati hai jis ka tafseeli zikar "burhapa aur jinsi zindagi" waley baab mein aaey ga.

Regular Sex And Hormones Level

 Doosri taraf regular sex mard kay liye bhi mufeed hai uska testosterone level bhi buland ho jata hai jo mard ki jinsi khwahish aur erection (tana'u) kay liye zaroori aur mufeed hai, iss ki wajah sey fard zyada taqatwer aur pur aetmaad mehsoos karta hai aur jinsi amal ko umar ki aakhri hudd tak jari rakh sakta hai. Yaad rahey kay jinsi khwahish aur tana'u ka ta'alluq jinsi hormone kay sath hai estrogen aur testosterone kay level ko barqaraar rakhney kay liye haftey mein 2 baar mubashrat mufeed aur zaroori hai. Research batati hai kay orgasm bunyadi tor per aurat ki sehat kay liye mufeed hai, waisey bhi jinsi amal sawab ka baa'iss hai phir iss sawab kay husool mein kanjoosi kyun? Ta'hum jinsi amal sirf mubaashirat nahin jinsi sukoon ko mubashrat kay elawa doosrey tareeqo'n sey bhi haasil kya ja sakta hai jis ka tafseeli zikr "jinsi sukoon kay matabadil tareeqey" waley hissey mein hoga.

    Humarey haan amooman larkey larkiyan donon apni khalwat ki baatein doosrey logon ko bata dete hain haala'n kay Allah kay nabi ney khalwat ki baatein doosron ko batane sey sakhti sey mana'a farmaya hai. Islam mein yeh bilkul haram hai.

Sexual Differences Between Men And Women

Lekin agar biwi mubashrat kay doran apney jism, khusoosan faraj (vagina) kay paththo'n (muscles) ko bilkul dheela chor dey to amooman mubashrat mein takleef nahin hoti. Aam tor per shuru ki chund mubashraton mein kuch takleef hoti hai lekin yeh takleef bhi uss takleef sey kam hoti hai jo aurton ko zaiwar kay shoq main naak, kaan mein chaed karwaney sey hoti hai.

            Jinsi (sexually) le'haz sey mard aur aurat mein fitri tor per bohut sexual differences (jinsi farq) hain, mard ma'amooli ishteaal (stimulation) sey bohut jald jinsi amal kay liye tayyar ho jata hai phir jun'hi mard jinsi tor per mushta'il ho jata hai to woh mubashrat kay zari'ay manzil ho kar jinsi sukoon hasil karna chahta hai lekin agar woh jinsi ishtia'al kay ba'ad manzil na ho to woh na sirf apney aap ko ghaer mutma'in mehsoos karta hai bul kay shadeed jhunjhalaahat aur takleef (discomfort) ka shikar ho jata hai. Agar mard ko biwi kay adum ta'awwun ki wajah sey bar bar iss tajurbey sey guzarna parey to phir ya to woh jins mein dilchaspi kho deta hai, ba'az intihaee surto'n mein to woh na mardi ka shikar ho jata hai ya phir doosri aurton ki taraf maa'il ho kar gunah ki daldal mein dhans jata hai. Isi liye Allah kay nabi ney farmaya : "shohar jab biwi ko apni zaroorat kay liye bulaey to woh foran uss kay liye hazir ho jaey chahey woh tanoor per bethi ho (roti paka rahi ho)"(tirmazi)  Ek doosri hadees mein irshaad hai kay shohar jab bhi apni biwi ko apney bister per bulaey aur woh inkaar kar dey to farishtey subah tak uss per la'anat bhejte rehtey hain (bukhari)

            Jinsi tayyari kay liye waqt kay le'haz sey bhi donon mein bohut difference (farq) hai mard jinsi amal kay liye jald tayyar ho jata hai, mard do teen minute kay jinsi ishti'aal sey manzil ho kar orgasm (intiha-e-lazzat) hasil kar leta hai, jab kay aurat ko orgasm hasil karne kay liye

Libido (Sexual Desires) In Men And Women

 Fitri tor per mard sey 10 guna zyada waqt ki zaroorat hai usey orgasm kay liye, 30 minute kay mohabbat kay khel (Foreplay) aur a'aza-e-makhsoosa (genitals) kay ishtia'al ki zaroorat hai. Mard aur aurat kay jinsi tajurbey bhi ek doosrey sey mukhtalif hotey hain mard bunyadi tor per jinsi haejaan ko kharij karna chahta hai jab kay aurat ka tajurba iss kay bilkul ulat hota hai aurat ko jinsi khushi uss waqt zyada mehsoos hoti hai jab uss kay jinsi haejaan mein aahista aahista izafa ho.

    Mian biwi ki sexual desires (jinsi khwahish) bhi ek jaisi nahin hoti kabhi mard mein kam aur aurat mein zyada hoti hai aur kabhi iss ka ulat hota hai iss tarah kabhi khawand mein jinsi khwahish (libido) zyada hoti hai aur kabhi biwi mein. Amooman mard ki sexual desires (jinsi khwahish) aurat ki nisbat kuch zyada aur shadeed hoti hai, usooli tor per mard ki jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi 17 ta 19 saal ki umar mein urooj per hoti hai jab kay aurat kay jinsi urooj ki umar 25 ta 39 saal hai. Mard aur aurat ki jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi mein tabdeeli aati rehti hai ba'az auqaat zehni daba'u aur zyada masroofiyat ki wajah sey mard ki sexual desires (libido) kam ho jati hai jab kay doosri taraf khawand ghar sey bahar pur kashish khawateen ko dekhta hai jiski wajah sey usey zyada jinsi angaekht ka samna karna parta hai iss surat mein uss kay jinsi jazbaat foran mushta'il ho jatey hain phir woh jinsi sukoon chahta hai. Isi liye Allah kay nabi ney farmaya: "tum mein se kisi ko jab (koi doosri) aurat bhali mehsoos ho aur dil per chot parey to chahiyie kay apni biwi kay sath humbister ho, iss tadbeer sey ajnabee aurat ka asar dil sey jata rahega."(muslim)
Sexual Desires In Men And Women
 

 Isliye zaroori hai kay biwi aisi soorat e haal mein khawand kay sath ta'awwun karey warna gunah gaar hogi.

    Ek survey mein ma'aloom hua kay 2/3 khawateen mardon ki nisbat mubashrat ki kam khwahish rakhti hain, Kinsey kay survey kay mutabiq shaadi kay shuru mein khawand biwi sey zyada mubashrat ki khwahish rakhta hai lekin darmiyani umar (35 -40) mein ulat yani iss umar mein aurat zyada jinsi khwahish rakhti hai. Hunt kay survey sey ma'aloom hua kay 5% aurton mein shadi kay ba'ad mubashrat ki khwahish nisbatan kam thi yani shaadi kay ibtida'ee dino'n mein iski jinsi khwahish kam thi magar Redook kay survey mein 33% biwiyon ney bataya kay unki khwahish thi kay woh mojooda haalat sey zyada mubashrat kartiin.

    Aksar mahireen ka khayal hai kay mard sex ko zyada ahmiat deta hai jab kay aurat romance ko magar ba'az doosrey mahireen ka khayal hai kay donon mubashrat chahtey hain yani donon jinsi khwahish kay hawale sey mukhtalif nahi, doosrey alfaz mein aurat bhi sex ko bohut pasand karti hai farq yeh hai kay aurat ko sex sey bharpoor lutf andoz honay kay liye kam az kam 20 ta 30 minute Foreplay (mohabbat kay khel) ki zaroorat hoti hai jab kay mard ko amooman sirf 2, 3 minute kay foreplay ki zaroorat hai aur ba'az ko koi zaroorat nahin, woh foran jinsi amal kay liye tayyar ho jatey hain ta'hum ek baat per saarey mahireen muttafiq hain kay mard bunyadi tor per mubashrat aur inzal chahta hai, woh mard jin ko bharpoor sex milti hai woh apni biwiyon ko bharpoor mohabbat detey hain kyun kay mard kay dil aur rooh ko kholney kay liye usey bharpoor sex ki zaroorat hai.

Important Factors For Marriage

Islam mein khufya shaadi sey mana kya gaya hai, ba'az fuqha'a kay nazdeek khufya shaadi zina kay baraber hai. Hazrat Muhammad ka irshaad hai kay halal-o-haram mein hadd e faazil nikah ki shuhrat aur duf hai. (tirmazi)

    Shaadi kartey waqt iss cheez ka bhi dhayan rakha jaey kay donon mian biwi kay qad chotey na hun aisi surat mein usool e wirasat kay mutabiq aksar bachon kay qad chotey honge jis ki wajah sey yeh bachay ehsaas e kamtari ka shikar ho jaengey aur bachiyon ki shadiyon mein masa'il paeda hongay, yani donon mein sey ek ka qad laziman lamba hona chahiyie. Iss tarah donon mian biwi kay rung bhi zyada sa'nwley nahin honey chiahiyien iss surat mein bhi usool-e-wirasat kay tehet aksar bachon kay rung sa'nwley hongey aur yeh becharey ehsaas-e-kamtari mein mubtala ho jaeingey mazeed bar aa'n larkiyon ki shaadi mein diqqat paesh aaegi chuna'ncha behter yahi hai kay mian biwi mein sey ek ka rung zaroor gora hona chahiyie. 

Intercourse - Mubashrat

Shaadi ki bunyad mubashrat hai magar humarey haan aksar log iss ki alif bay sey bhi waqif nahin yaqeen karein kuch logon ko to yeh bhi ma'aloom nahin kay mubashrat kahan hoti hai woh exact jagah konsi hai? Iss silsilay mein humari khawateen ki ma'aloomaat to na honey kay baraber hain jis ki wajah sey woh azdwajii zindagi sey bharpoor andaaz sey lutf andooz nahin hotiin bul kay aksar to shadeed jhunjhalahat (frustration) ka shikar hoti rehti hain.

            Humarey haan amooman mubashrat ko achi cheez nahin samjha jata jis ki wajah sey aksar khawateen jinsi amal mein bharpoor shirkat aur ta'awwun nahin kartiin nateejatan woh khud bhi aksar auqaat azdwajii lutf sey mehroom rehti hain aur khawand bhi bharpoor jinsi sukoon aur lutf hasil nahin kar pata. Haala'n kay islam mein shadi kay ba'ad mubashrat koi na pasandeeda cheez nahin bul kay Allah kay nabi ney mubashrat ko naekii aur sadqa qaraar diya hai jis ka sawab milta hai.(muslim) aur agar biwi ta'awwun na karey to woh gunah ki murtakib hoti hai. (bukhari)

            Aksar khawateen kay nazdeek mubashrat ek takleef deh cheez hai aur woh iss se khauf zada hoti hain chuna'ncha mubashrat kay iss khud saakhta khauf ki wajah se inn ka jism tann aur akar jata hai, khusoosan faraj (vagina) kay muscles tann jatey hain jis ki wajah se mubashrat ka amal takleef deh ho jata hai. 

Pious Woman In Islam

Pious Woman In Islam
 

 (aisi aurat) Jisko woh jo hukum dey to woh uss per foran amal karey uski taraf dekhey to woh uska dil khush kardey, usko qasam dey to woh qasam ko poora karey aur woh ghayab ho to woh apni asmat aur uss kay maal ki hifazat karey (ibn-e-maja) Hazrat Muhammad ney ek aur moqa per farmaya " Uss zaat ki qasam jis kay qabzey mein meri jaan hai, jo shakhs bhi apni biwi ko bister per bulaey aur woh inkaar karey to Aasmaan wala uss sey uss waqt tak naraz hota hai jab tak woh apney shohar ko razi na karey" (bukhari, muslim) Ek doosri hadees mein irshad hai "shohar jab apni biwi ko apney bister per bulaey  aur woh aaney sey inkaar kar dey to farishtey subah tak uss per la'anat kartey rehtey hain." (bukhari) Ek aur jagah irshaad farmaya : "shohar jab apni biwi ko zaroorat kay liye bulaey to woh foran us kay liye hazir ho jaey, go woh tanoor per bethi ho(roti paka rahi ho)" (tirmazi).

    Allah kay nabi ne biwi ko khawand ki ijazat kay baghair nafli namaz aur nafli rozey rakhney sey mana farmaya hai. (bukhari) Hazrat Muhammad ney aurat ko dunya ki  behetreen mata'a qarar diya hai, irshaad hai kay sari dunya mata'a hai aur dunya ki behetreen mata'a (Pious Woman) naek bakht aurat hai. (muslim) Pious woman (Naek bakht aurat) ko jannat ki basharat di gaee hai, Hazrat Muhammad ne farmaya kay jo aurat paanch waqt ki namaz parhti rahey, ramazan kay rozey rakhey, apni aabroo bachaey yani paak daaman rahey aur apney shohar ki ta'abedaari aur farma'n bardaari karti rahey to usey ikhtiyar hai kay jis darwazey sey chahey jannat mein chali jaey. Ek aur jagah huzoor ney irshaad farmaya kay jo aurat iss haalat mein mari kay shohar razi tha woh jannat mein daakhil ho gaee, (tirmazi) ta'ahum gunah kay kaam mein aurat khawand ka hukum na maney gi. 

Husband And Wife In Islam :  Aurton ki aksaryat ko apney khawand ki wajah sey mua'ashrey mein buland maqam milta hai maslan doctor ki biwi, aalim ki biwi, ek crore pati ki biwi, ek adeeb ki hatta kay ek wazeer ki biwi waghaira ko mua'ashrey mein jo maqam hasil hota hai iss kay husool mein uska koi khaas kirdaar nahin hota, magar ba'az auqaat ma'amooli sey ikhtilaaf ki wajah sey aurat khawand ki na shukri kar guzarti hai yeh na shukri bohut bara gunah hai. Hazrat Muhammad ney farmaya : meiney aaj (dozakh) ki tarah koi darauni cheez nahin dekhi, meiney dekha iss mein aurtein bohut hain, logon ney arz kya ya rasool Allah iss ki  kya wajah hai? Aap ney farmaya : yehi kufr, logon ney arz kya kya Allah sey kfur? Aap ney farmaya : nahin, khawand ka kufr (na shukri) ahsaan na man'na. Aurat ka yeh haal hai kay agar tu umar bhar uss kay sath ahsaan karta rahey phir koi baat tumhari taraf sey unn ki tabyat kay khilaf ho gaee to bol uthey gi kay meiney kabhi bhi tum sey koi behetri nahin dekhi (bukhari). Hazrat Sobaan kehtey hain kay Rasool Allah ney farmaya kay jo aurat bila wajah apney shohar sey talaq chahey, uss per jannat ki bu haram hai. (ibn-e-maja, ahmed, tirmazi, darmi). Hazrat Muhammad ney farmaya kay teen tarah kay aadmi aisey hain jin ki na namaz qabool hoti hai, na koi aur neki manzoor hoti hai, ek wo aurat jis ka shohar uss sey naraz ho, doosra woh jo nashey mein mast ho, teesra woh musalmaan bhai jo ek doosrey ko kisi dunyavi wajah sey chortey hain.(ibn-e-maja) Islam mein mard kay liye sab sey muhatram uski walida hai aur aurat kay liye uska khawand, donon ki narazgi sey bachna chahiyie. 

Suitable Age For Marriage

Shaadi kay hawaley sey chund cheezon ko malhooz-e-khatir rakhna mufeed hoga aurat kay liye shaadi ki behetreen umar 20 ta 25 saal hai iss doran mein paeda honey wali aulaad sehat mand hoti hai, mard kay liye shaadi kay liye behtarin umar 25 ta 27 saal hai waise 30 saal tak bhi theek hai, behter yeh hai shaadi kay waqt aurat ki umar mard se 5 ta 10 saal choti ho kyun kay bachon ki paedaesh ki wajah sey aurat ka jism jald dhal jata hai jiski wajah sey aurat mein kashish kam ho jati hai, agar biwi ki umar kam hogi to uski jismani kashish zyada der tak barqaraar rahey gi. Waisey bhi aurat jismani aur zehni le'haz sey mard ki nisbat jald mature ho jati hai larki ki umar kisi bhi tarah larkey sey zyada nahin honi chahiyie.

    Mangni aur shaadi kay darmyan zyada lamba arsa nahin hona chahiyie, zyada sey zyada ek saal ka waqfa ho agar darmyani waqfa zyada lamba ho to donon khusoosan mard shadeed jhunjhalahat ka shikar ho jata hai. Shaadi ki date taey kartey waqt haez (menses) ka bhi zaroor dhayan rakha jaey aisa na ho kay shaadi kay ek aadh din baad maahwaari  shuru ho jaey, iss sey khawand shadeed jismani tanau ka shikar hoga le'haza shaadi ki date maahwaari kay 8 din ba'ad ki rakhi jaey taa kay donon mian biwi mubashirat sey bharpoor lutf andoz ho sakein. Haez (menses) kay foran ba'ad aurat kay jinsi jazbaat amooman madh'dham par jatey hain inn dinon iski tabyat mein chirchira pan, afsurdagi aur bey chaeni paeda ho jati hai.

    Shaadi dhoom dhaam sey honi chahiyie taa kay har kisi kay ilm mein ho kay 'uski' shaadi ho gaee hai. Irshad-e-nabvi hai kay :"Nikah ka ailaan masjid mein karo aur iss per duf peeto (kay khoob ailaan ho)" (tirmazi)